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5 things forgiveness does NOT do.

Updated: Apr 14, 2022

When we experience negative or painful life events, they can lead to uncomfortable physical reactions in our bodies. They can also lead to uncomfortable thoughts and feelings when we remember them. This can cultivate emotions such as anger, resentment and emotional barriers in order to make us feel protected and safe. However, anger and resentment can be debilitating. Emotional barriers can be debilitating. And both are certainly not comfortable to carry.

If you have not been encouraged to practice forgiveness from childhood, then it can be tough to find your way to resolving that inner turmoil when negative experiences occur in adulthood.

Forgiveness and self-forgiveness is important, if not fundamental to healing and working on self-compassion. Forgiveness is powerful when working on self-esteem, self-worth, issues with anger, limiting belief systems, stress and anxiety and building confidence.

Forgiveness sets you free. It helps release your anger, opens your heart, improves your quality of life, allows you to uphold boundaries and make peace with the past.

Forgiveness does not:

1. Condone what they did or what happened

2. Justify their actions

3. Require you to reconnect

4. Weaken or flex your boundaries. They are your personal limits.

5. Make you a push over

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